Love and Respect

Last year my husband and  I got into a ridiculous fight right in the middle of a deployment, right before our 5th anniversary. I cant remember a thing about that fight other than I said something along the lines of  "You don't know anything about me! You don't love me! I'm not answering the phone for you the rest of this deployment so you can see what it's like to miss me" Yeah. I know. I was crazy.
Feeling unloved makes girls act crazy! In fact there is a WONDERFUL book called Love and Respect. My dear husband bought it THAT night and put it on both of our Kindles so we could read it together. We agreed to read a certain number of chapters by the end of each week or few days, and we would talk about it via email or chatting on Gmail.
Immediately Garrett laughed, these fights in the book sounded JUST LIKE US! This man is a genius.We both have recommended this book to nearly every couple we have a relationship with, including some sets of our parents! It was life changing for us.The author defines "the crazy cycle" (see Im not the only crazy gal). Without love the wife responds without respect, without respect the husband responds without love, without love the wife responds without respect, ect ect. That's all I'm sharing from the book! Go read it! Your marriage will transform, even if you have a good marriage. I absorb marriage books, why wait til there is a problem to fix it?
When G and I were newly married, it wasn't really that whole "being married is like having a sleepover with your best friend every night". We were crazy in love with each other; we made a great team; his strengths were my weaknesses and vice versa. However, we were not best friends. G maintained that he was very happy, and we had a really good marriage. I wanted more! I read many Christian marriage books, or atleast parts of them seeking out ways to have that friendship with my husband. I read Mark Discroll's Real Marriage book  that even has friendship in the sub-title! It is also a very great book, it helped us grow and mature a little more in our spiritual loves, our oneness, and as a family but not in the sense of friendship.
In the year since we read Love and Respect, we have been closer as friends than ever before. I finally feel that G is my best friend. We strive to love/respect each other and I know we are both happy and more mature in our marriage than we have ever been!  We fight, bicker, nag sometimes. But we both know how to respond or act- with love and with respect. It simmers a fight quicker than any other response!

I highly recommend this book to YOU. What's better for your marriage, kids, family than you and your spouse being BEST FRIENDs who love and respect each other?